Whirlwind Romances; Love Them Or Leave Them

Whirlwind Romances; Love Them Or Leave Them

by Astrid Engels

You probably know someone, or at least read a book where this happens; two people meet, fall head over heels in love, and do something totally extreme. Like getting married while jumping out of an airplane or moving (running away??) to Greenland. While it sounds terribly romantic, is it really?

I'm of two minds about this one, probably because I've been there. In my younger, yet equally head strong, days, I completely lost it over a man who was 15 years older than me. We'd been dating for just three months when in a flurry of emotion I sublet my amazing apartment, packed my bags and moved in with him.



What happened next was the stuff of nightmares not romantic dreams. He attacked me. Though I'm kind of glib about it now, at the time I felt like my world had fallen apart. Not only was I loveless, I was homeless. And on top of all that, I'd started to doubt my own abilities about feelings and instincts. It happened so suddenly and so intensely it was as though I was watching myself in a movie.



I've been told that I should have been more discriminating and not so hasty in my decision. That could be. However, I made it out in one piece. And even if I could go back for a do over, I'm not sure that I'd do things any differently. I go from the heart, I always have, and I always will. That's who I am. If I put a buffer on my heart I wouldn't have experienced the emotions that I did; for better or worse.



I think that's the reasoning that many leaping before looking lovers provide: you take the good with the bad. And never sacrifice the good just to save yourself from potential bad. Otherwise, you'll end up an old, sad sack of middle-ground. And life is too short to not be extreme from time to time.



Having said that there are two sides to this coin. I'm all about following your heart to unexpected places. You'll have some amazing adventures. But, and it's a big but, there's a big difference between being someone who habitually falls deeply in and out of love and changes his or her whole life around on a whim, and being someone who drops everything for one once in a lifetime whirlwind romance.



I've dubbed people like this "love-bleweeds". Like tumbleweeds, they make a life out of rolling and tumbling around. They build up a relationship and a life with someone only to uproot it months later. Then they reconfigure themselves when the next one comes along. If they do this long enough, they'll forget what it's like to be calm and comfortable. Nor will they be able to exercise any follow through whatsoever.



I suppose some people are happy like this and if so, more power to them. However, there are lots of casualties surrounding someone who lives like this: they have friends and co-workers and lovers and neighbors and pets and a life that gets set up. When you drop everything at the sight of the next "soulmate" who comes along, there are bound to be a heap of people in your wake who are going to feel something missing when you're gone.



When love does come along quickly and intensely it's just too good a thing to pass up. If you've been around the block a time or two, and add a dollop of good luck, you just might have learned how to protect your life, without having to sacrifice any of the amazing feelings that go along with it.

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