Seduction on The Coffee Date

Seduction on The Coffee Date

by Richard Brus

The best way to succeed with a woman after you have her phone number is to ask her out for a coffee. Building and strengthening your connection with her is best done in a casual atmosphere and there is nothing like a cafe.

The probability that a woman will accept your invitation for coffee is much greater than that of her accepting an invitation to a more formal date such as dinner or the movies. Because it's short and in a public place there's no underlying expectations for her to become intimate or be exposed to a situation that may make her feel uncomfortable.



Men fail to realize the crucial importance of these dynamics when attempting to connect with women. Women need to feel safe and need to have a sense of control regarding the pace of the seduction. A coffee date accommodates these needs because cafes are safe and the date itself it casual and short.



Most women will need to spend around 8 hours with a man before they are comfortable enough to become intimate with him. This is why the common first date ideas fail so badly. They fail to utilize the little known secret called time fractionating. There is absolutely no point in being with a woman any longer than 40mins on your first date. Succeeding with women is made easier by utilizing these 8 hours correctly.



If you're capable of generating a good connection with her whilst sharing a coffee she'll definitely be inclined to go on a second date with you. However, even if you're a master flirter and a great conversationalist, the intimacy and quality of your connection with her will start to die down at around the 40 minute mark. And when this connection levels out, women can easily become bored.



She'll become bored because although you're connecting well with her and you've created sexual tension via flirting, you won't be able to take things to the next stage with her. You can't take things to the next stage with her because you haven't spent anywhere near 8 hours with her. But because you've established a great connection with her and can't move things on to the next stage, she'll become bored and frustrated.



When you keep the coffee date short and limited to a period of 40 minutes it helps you avoid this trap. Just as she begins to feel a connection strong enough to make her think about intimacy the date is over and she is left in a state of anticipation regarding the next date. It doesn't matter if the woman you desire is your dream girl or just your next casual fling, a short coffee date is the most effective way of ensuring things move to the next stage smoothly.



The purpose of the coffee date is to create a good connection with her so she feels compelled to go on a second date with you. After spending a maximum of 40 minutes with her you'll have a sound idea of what she likes doing for fun and you'll be able to plan a much more effective second date for her. You would've also increased the quality of your connection with her before asking her out on an official date.



The dinner date doesn't work well for the first date because the intensity of the connection levels out after 40 minutes, and two hours later she'll become bored with you. The connection has to be kept fresh and given room to breathe. Spending two hours with her on a first date will leave you in the middle of nowhere. It doesn't factor in the 8 hours she requires to feel comfortable enough to become intimate. The connection you create with her will be less effective if you stay any longer than 40 minutes.



If you can generate a good connection and then end the date after 40 minutes it will leave her in a state of anticipation. When you ask her out again you'll know exactly where to take her and what to feed her. She'll be much more receptive to the idea of going on a second date with you and by the end of your perfectly planned second date she might not be able to take her hands off you.

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